The unsalted wound (so far)...

Update from my last post...
I did respond to A's comment and you know what? I said what the hell! I have swallowed a hell of a lof of pride through this whole thing so f@#* it... here goes, I mean seriously, what is the worst thing that will happen? I am humiliated a little more by someone I haven't talked to in about 10 years? Then so be it!
I told her I would be in town in the end of the month and maybe we could meet up... it was up to her. She responded... Yes, we should definatly arrange that.
So, we'll see what happens... what the hell, right?

Salt in the wound...

When I checked my email today I saw that there was comment on my alumni page ( I posted about that not too long ago) and I saw who it was from, "A". A friend of mine from college with whom I had a falling out with about X when we started dating. We stopped speaking until I opened my mailbox today.
She said that she wanted to say hi and that Bug was beautiful and she hopes things have been well in my life. I know that we all grow up and move on but I have to say that this split up (X and I) is a hard one and there only a few people I didn't want to know about it... a friend of mine from HS, she didn't like him when them met, and A. I guess I am always afraid of the "I told you so" or "You've made your bed..." that I feel like should be coming my way. Like I deserved it, or that I should have listened, or seen it coming... That I should have known. I guess I am just waiting for that extra salt in the wound. I was waiting for it and I was afraid to see what she wrote. I didn't want to see her still angry with me, or to laugh in my face, or to make me feel like more of an ass than I already do.
But she didn't.
It took me a while to reply... I ended up with something along the lines of... Thank you, it has been a while. Life has had its ups and downs since I last saw you but much better now. Looks like you are established and doing well. And something about not running into her while I was living there. Within a few hours she responded about understanding the ups and downs... her father passed away last year. And to remember that everything happens for a reason.
I have yet to get back to her, I don't know what to say! I know what I want to say... Please, don't laugh at me. I know you are probably thinking to yourself that it serves me right but you just don't know! I will be there in a few weeks for a visit, can we meet and catch up? I know things ended badly between us but there were so many good times before that...
I will probably just tell her that I am sorry for her loss and that yes, everything does happen for a reason.
And maybe, just see where that goes.

Beach watch 2K8...

Seriously, I should have started this earlier this week so let me take a minute to catch you up to speed. This may jump around a bit so please bear with me, it will make sense in the end. Here goes...
At the end of the month I am taking Bug to the beach to visit her great grandparents and other family (all from his side). I figured he would probably come up to see Bug and so would his mom. Anyway, here is where it gets fun. This past weekend he came up to visit (Friday -Monday) Bug for the weekend. The weekend was smooth enough. It was odd though, on Friday night he started mentioning that he might have to go back on Sunday because of work but he wasn't sure yet. By Saturday I asked him about his plans for Sunday and he confirmed what I already figured out... He was leaving on Sunday. I wasn't really surprised!
We also talked about the beach trip and then he sprung something on me, no the minister isn't coming but it wouldn't surprise me if he tried that, but he is going to stay at the same place that I am... his uncle's house. Actually, he is staying right across the hall the whole weekend. Fantastic! And while I am at it, lets just add to the fun... His brother and pregnant wife are coming to the beach also, with their dog! I may have found that one out Saturday evening. Who knows? I have lost track by now.
Fast forward to Monday... When Bug calls X, like usual, around 4 on the way home from school he tells her that he is getting ready to go jogging. That's odd! He works an hour away and it is only 4 in the afternoon, he is home, relaxed, and ready for a jog? I thought he had to leave Sunday because of work on Monday. Hmmm! I guess I was right, I figured he just wanted to have a free day with the minister. Why say anything... there really is no point!
Then comes the floods of bad news. Between Wednesday evening and Thursday morning I find out that other g-g-mother is in ICU from blacking out and falling, someone in the distant family just got diagnosed with breast cancer, and a friends husband just lost his job. Bummer! Later Thursday I get even more bad news... X just lost his job in reorganization. Go figure. I could rant and rave here but I won't, I will let you do that in your comments. Please, it may make me feel better!
So Thursday night I am talking with his mom about flights for the end of July and I say...
"God, I don't think I can handle any more bad news today."
"Really"
"Between g-g-mother, breast cancer, friend's hubby, then the email today about X's job. Man, bad day for news!"
"When did you find out about X's job?"
"Today"
"It happened last week. He didn't tell you?"
"No"
"He was supposed to tell you before he came up to visit Bug."
"He didn't. And you want to know something really funny? He told me that he had to leave on Sunday because they needed him back at work on Monday?"
"OMG! Are you kidding me?"
"D, would I lie?"
"You wouldn't."
"I know and I haven't about any of this. What do you think I have been telling you about this entire time?"
"I can't believe this, all of the lies..."
Needless to say we got off the phone a minute or two later. I can't say I am surprised. I also found out that asked for half of the escrow from his dad to pay for last month's child support. WTF!
Anyway, I got another call from his mom in the middle of dinner saying that the shit has hit the fan and as we spoke his father was chewing him out on the other phone. If I was to be contacted by X about this, don't listen to what he says because I didn't do anything wrong.
We will see what happens from here, if anything. There are are a few things I know for sure... X is still a huge liar, he is broke and as dependable as usual, and the chance of anything changing, well, that is slim to nil!
Now I am on Beach Watch 2K8, who knows WTF will happen between now and then but I will let you know!
Moral of the story: Honesty is the best policy don't marry a nut-job!