My daughter, the cock-block...

I knew it would happen at some point and I even psyched my self up for it... it will weed out the losers. But it happened for real and not in my head! I went out on a date a week ago with GC. It was almost a blind date, he was a bartender I had been making "eyes" with and I got ballsy. I was going to just five him my number when I payed the check... but with my luck I got chicken-shit and he got busy so I sent my wing-gal up with digits in hand. The hand-off was a success but did you notice there was little to no conversation here... AKA_ I didn't even know his name!!! FFwd a week and a half later and I get a call and after working out some scheduling issues we met up.
Luckily, I remembered him when I saw him, phew! Which is more than I can say for some of the other dates I have had! Anyway, we talk and I find out that he helps design menus for area restaurants using local food, he knows a lot about wine and beer, he is a world traveler, and an artist whom is considering furniture making... In many ways Aiden from Sex and the City... Hhhmm, I can just imagine this fantasy life with Aiden, er, I mean, GC.
Oh, did I mention we went to the same high school? I graduated in 199... and he in 2001, the same year as my brother!! Thats besides the point, I can get past that because he is finishing up his master's degree in another country, one with rolling green hills and across an ocean from here. But that too, that is fine with me! That means no commitment and I am 100% down with that! A summer fling on a tight schedule... that might be just what the doctor ordered!
So over half way through the date (I tried to feel it out) I drop part of my bomb... Bug (I left the whole "D" thing out of it). He seems cool about it but things got a little weird after that. When dinner was over he walked me to my car and I told him I had a really nice time and he said he did too. No kiss, but he said he would call, I don't believe him but thats just my "mother's intuition".

Soul mate or settling...

So I was thinking... What to write today. Bug is still sick, I am tired and that is about it. I could obsess about the approaching day of love (FYI... my V-day weekend is booked, no dates however but I am good with that!). Nah, no need to beat a dead horse!
Anyway, I am sitting here and listening to the local NPR station and Talk of the Nation is on and their guest is a relationship columnist and author. The subject of today's discussion is successful partnerships and marriage. When passion fades in a marriage and you don't have a strong bond, what happens... inevitable failure!
But the older you get when searching for a partner, is it bad to settle? I am not saying "make due" but to really look at someone and say that this person may not be everything I am looking for but we really have a base for something to grow on. Go in with lower expectations and then you can only be pleased with the outcome? No, not a POS and be happy when he doesn't rob a bank, come on, lets be serious. I am saying what if there are no passionate flames but a strong base? Could it work? Something to think about and a different view on dating.
To stay true to my Libran ways ( I have turned into a horoscope junkie) mine says today that I am the voice of love. If it has nothing to do with love... forget about it! I need to spread the love today. So, in keeping with that theme... Me, I am still waiting for Prince Charming and not settling. At least not till spring fever hits!

If I really listened to Walt...

It was Bugs dream come true... All princesses, all weekend! There was a movie marathon of Cinderella, The Little Mermaid, and Sleeping Beauty. She danced with her princess figurines while watching her princesses... What more could a two year old little girl want other than cheese?
Anyway, all these fairy tales got me thinking... No, not what a crock...that is not how it works in real life. But seriously, maybe I should use these examples as criteria, kind of like a checklist. So here are my reasons why a prince is the man for me...
1) These princes are all looking for love... Not the next sporting event!!
2) They come from good royal stock (no bad teeth or apparent inbreeding, good thing) and never seem to get dirty... Ok, so good upbringing isn't a sure thing but at least it will eliminate some of the excuses, and the other thing... well that just makes for easier laundry!
3) They are willing to fight a witch, dragon, even an evil stepmother for just a kiss... Not to just get in her pants!
4) They already have their manners down. They have to, they are princes... No spitting, scratching, excessive cursing, farting , burping, etc. in public. I am sure they would still open doors after the first month of dating!
5) They all look genuinely interested in what she is saying. Heck, Ariel couldn't even talk and Prince Eric still looked interested.... Note: No glazed over look in their eyes!!
6) Again they are looking for love, even willing to marry the next day... Not commitment-phobic!!
7) Lets face it... they are freaking princes!!! Not some loser you met at the bar!
Oh well... I will go back to daydreaming of my prince, who knows, maybe one day I will meet him!
"I know you, I walked with you once upon a dream..." -Sleeping Beauty